No one can truly feel beautiful when they do not have body confidence, which is a connection with our own body. It does not matter whether you own the most beautiful or expensive clothes, have the latest and trendiest hair styles, show a muscle packed body or a flawless face with no wrinkles, simply said, a body devoid of connection, is a body riddled with insecurity.
Most people move throughout life without body confidence, so we seek for this outward confidence desperately. We falsely think if we solely customize our outward appearance, then we will gain this confidence, yet the truth is-our exterior is only half of the equation. Whilst, the naked fact is-if we only focus on our exterior, it actually never builds true confidence, it simply is impossible.
Our external appearance is never permanent, there is no eternity in our physicality. Our body changes, it ages and that is our natural progression. Society holds an ideological impossibility of the definition of beauty-a youthful, slim and wrinkle free body (which is very unnatural) being a standard of beauty. Essentially we are slamming a universal impossibility onto our bodies and calling that beautiful. Anything and anyone which is outside of this impossibility (actual abnormality) is thus called abnormal (actual naturalness), that is, not beautiful enough.
How on earth can we be confident in a world that awards what is abnormal and impossible, and call that a standard that we have to constantly smash our bodies to achieve?!
Is is not true that because it is a lose lose for all, no matter what you do, that people stop taking care of themselves and would rather just give up on their looks and indulge in withdrawal, just because it all does not make sense? To a certain extent, the Gen Z attitude towards dressing up is a reflection of such withdrawal. Those who use so much effort and money to upkeep their external appearances to look perfect and flawless, in-truth, are the most sold out. Instead of being what they project themselves to be-the authority on beauty and confidence, this confidence does not sustain itself.
If, they did not have their incessant supply of designer clothing, designer makeup and hair styling, the machines to correct their flaws and body shapes, if without this constant supply of fixing, could they still show their confidence now?
There is no real confidence, if our confidence is dependent on externality. This is not being harsh, but simply truth.
The pressures of society will always be relentless on judging our (external) beauty, so there is no judgement whatsoever for anyone who commits to this path. Yet, in the experience of my fashion work and the naturalness of being with the body, nurturing and not ignoring the connection with ourselves, actually is a solid foundation for us to face the pressures of external beauty. Not only does it allow us to feel a deeper settlement, it actually allows a depth of beauty and confidence to be emanated, that is never just physical.
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